Here is something that shocks everyone I tell... J was the love of my life. For all the things she did to me, I still think of her fondly. I sometimes wonder what my answer would be if one day she asked me to take her back. But I digress...
We met while I was in Okinawa Japan. She was married to a GI at the time. She led me to believe that he was abusive, both physically and mentally, so I had to play the "White Knight" (I was very much in that mode at the time).
What I DIDN'T know was that she had some pretty severe mental issues that were not being treated at the time. What were they? She was severely BI-Polar. At that time I don't this they really HAD a treatment for it but suffice it to say she was mentally ill.
She left her husband and moved in with me (I lived off base) and when he filed for and was granted a divorce, she was force to go back to the states. I spent one of vacation weeks to go visit her in Los Angles. When I got back to Japan, I sold my prized possession at the time (an apple computer that I had built from scratch) and paid for her ticket back to Japan on a tourist visa. We got married over there and were VERY happy. We ended up moving to Dover Delaware after that which is where the s**t really hit the fan.
I went on a couple temporary tours of duty during our time together. Once when I was gone, She hired a photographer to come over to our house and take some picture of her in a selection of her lingerie. When I got home, I was VERY excited and happy the she did this for me! It was something that I had always wished for. A wife willing to do it and was good looking enough to do it and for her to love me enough to do them for me! Little did I know...
I went to Florida on my own while we were married because we had 2 dogs that could NOT be left alone in the house under any circumstances. I called J every day and each day she seemed a little stranger and a little stranger... Finally wanting me home right now and not a second later, she told me she had swallowed a number of pills to try to commit suicide! I called the base (we were living on base at the time), told them what she had done and took the next flight home.
They (of course) put her under 3 day observation and she finally came out and said she didn't actually take any pills but she thought she "dreamed" the whole thing because she was so desperate to get me home for fear that I would leave her when I got back! She ended up staying in the hospital psyhc for a month to try and get her head on straight.
At one point I was asked into a joint session because there were some things J needed to share with me. It was then that I learned... She had cheated on me as well. wit my best friend (AGAIN!), The photography that took the picture (I thought I smelled Jerry-curl on my pillow when I got home!) PLUS 2 other guys that I didn't know!!!
I was devastated! We continued couples counseling for the rest of the time she was in... When she got out, we were doing very well! The trust wasn't fully back yet but things were working out.
Since I wasn't making much in the AF, she did a little job hopping trying to find something with decent income. She was working as a receptionist for a company when things went totally awry...
I noticed something was off because she started listening to country western (Up till this point we both HATED the stuff!), got some short shorts, a cowboy hat and cowboy boots.
To make a long story short, she had met a Master Sergeant (Made a LOT more than I did) and was changing herself to match what he was looking for. The next sit happened VERY quickly... she quit her job, got her own place, got divorced from me and married him!!
I have to pass this part on, I started to think that she wasn't dissatisfied with me but more with the money I brought in. We were in Albuquerque, NM when all this happened. Now the wait time for a divorce in ALQ was a month... she couldn't wait that long.. so she had the lawyer send the papers to a different county in NM where the wait time was only 3 days!.. The divorce was finalized on a Friday. On Sat her and her new money source were in Vegas and on Sunday the were married. yes.. that quick...
How you may ask was I finally convinced it was money and not me? I saw her like twice after she married the sucker... er... Master Sargent... When I asked what he was like or if she was happy, her response was "Oh very! her has a gold card you know! A Platinum one too!"
I love Karma... if often bites people in the ass that really deserve it... in this case, she went up to Wisconsin to visit the only family she had and when she got back, all of her stuff was in the front yard and there was a note on the door... "I changed the locks on the house so don't bother. I am filing for divorce."
Gotcha
I lost her after that... Last I heard was many years about, she was married to a retired colonel or something (They make BIG money!)
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